Monday, March 31, 2014

Knitting.

My oldest girl started knitting. She made a a possum/merinowool scarf. She dyed it antique rose colour. She even got her own label. BIG HUG love, Deb
I used to knit a lot for her. 
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Saturday, March 29, 2014

Sands, A Little Life, Not a Little Loss.


Today I met a new mum,
She asked what I do,
I said writing,
What do you write?
I write almost anything.
My first book was my journey.
My baby died.
Oh! my baby died too.
My arms went out to her.
I showed her my 2 Sands Wrist bands.
It says: Sands, A Little Life, Not a Little Loss.
I made a special friend today.

Wearing two bands attracted people's attention,
Some ask me what I am wearing them for.

Wearing two bands attracted people's attention,
Some ask me what I am wearing them for.
I tell them that it is ok to grieve.
There is no time limit.
Don't tell a Grieving parent to move on before they are ready.

Friday, March 21, 2014

stars





Some of my friends adopt a star to remember their loved decease one.
For $10, members of the public can select a star to adopt from the catalogue, and receive an e-mail certificate and updates if any planets are discovered around their star. All the money raised goes toward funding scientific research on the stars.

http://www.space.com/7135-adopt-star-fund-science.html


The Inuit say the stars are holes in heaven. We see people we love shining through.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

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From China to Borneo and beyond / Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan.

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Auckland, N.Z. : Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan 2013.

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Diary of a bereaved mother / Ann Kit Suet Chin.

Ann Kit Suet Chin 1954-


Auckland, N.Z. : A.K.S. Chin 2011. 2nd ed..

Available at GENERAL LIBRARY New Zealand & Pacific Level G (155.937 C539 )



Sunday, March 16, 2014

My author page



     


          
  When you cry, I cry with you. I too lost my baby.

Writer, Mum, Teacher, Parent Advocate, Public Speaker.
“Diary of a bereaved mum, Goodbye my baby”
“From China to Borneo to Beyond”
“Mail Order Mail”
http://annkitsuetchin.blogspot.co.nz    annkschin@yahoo.com


Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan
Ann Chin was born in British Sarawak in Borneo.
She graduated from the University of Windsor (Canada), Auckland University and Auckland University of Technology.
She teaches ESOL to children and adults.
Her favourite charity is the Deaf children in Kenya. She helped raise funds to separate the pair of Nepalese Siamese twins in Singapore.
Ann is mum to 3 surviving children and angel Andrew, (29.9 to 22.11.1989). Ann is married to Dr. Chen Chen Onn PhD.
Her first book was written as a therapy for herself and to help other bereaved parents. Ann appeared in a National NZ TV Documentary, “It’s OK to cry.” A Write-up in the Aucklander and her book “Diary of a bereaved mother,” was exhibited at the Peacock Art Gallery, Upton Country, Dorset Park, England.
Her books are circulated in New Zealand, Australian and Malaysian libraries.

Photo: courtesy Francis Chen

Friday, March 14, 2014

a kind act

Saw this lovely act,
family of departed loved one,
donated this bench,
to their memory,
gives tired beach goers,
a lovely place to sit,
and enjoy the sea view.


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Thursday, March 13, 2014

Angels and their bereaved parents.

We were on our way home from a day's outing when we heard the news of the Malaysian Airline plane's disappearance. My first reaction was: no, over 200 new grieving mums, and 200 grieving parents. and Over 200 angels. We in the grieving world call our beloved departed loved one angels. I follow the news with extra fervour, because I have an angel.

Deborah was doing well in the crèche with Andrea. One day she came up to the ward to give Andrew a picture she had made. She had drawn her family photo. When I saw it, I cried. She drew Andrew as a baby floating above us. She had glued onto him a blue Chinese conical hat. The rest of us were standing firmly on the ground. She told me that she stuck the hat on because Andrew was a Chinese boy and he was up in the skies because he was an angel. To her, it was a good picture. She had in her own way accepted that Andrew was going to die and he was going to be an angel. We pinned the picture above Andrew’s cot, and she proudly told everyone that her baby brother was going to be an angel. -

Helping the bereaved grieve.

In my book, I have a chapter on helping the bereaved grieve. One section is helping children grieve.

Deborah drew this when Andrew was dying in the ICU. She had stuck a conical hat on Andrew, because she knew we were Chinese living in a White man's world. She explained her drawing to all the visitors in NICU.

The picture is old but itremains in my heart. Andrew 29 Sept to 22 November 1989

Deborah's art in an exhibition in England

I encourage newly bereaved to draw or write their 

emotions. In  my book, I had a chapter on how to help 

children grieve. This was how 4 1/2 years old  Deborah 

grieved while waiting her brother die.

Forever In My Heart exhibition which is at the Peacock Art Gallery, Upton Country Park, from 31 January to 4 February 2013.


Judy Lancaster-Bowen


Hello Ann and Deborah,
The Forever in my Heart exhibition is this week and your book and Deborah's drawings really look so lovely. Thank you so much for including them in the exhibition. Many people, especially, stop for quite a while and look and comment on Deborah's drawings. Really spending the time looking at her Chinese Baby, Andrew, and your family picture. It does touch my heart each time I see someone standing in front of her drawings, and that even though it has been a long time since Andrew passed, you are still able to communicate what was going on for your family when Andrew was going to be "an angel".
Here is a link to the website where I have uploaded photographs from the exhibition.http://www.foreverinmyheartexhibition.com/134494020
You can also see more photographs on our facebook page:www.facebook.com/foreverinmyheartexhibition
Thank you so much
Judy

Day old Andrew


Today, a facebook friend posted a photo of her baby's coffin about to be lowered down into his little grave. I told her, I had no recollection of seeing Andrew's coffin being lowered. Did I block that into a recess in my brain?

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Plunket, Mt Albert Baptist Church and me.



Nau mai, haere mai. Welcome to Plunket.
We are New Zealand's largest provider of support services for the development, health and wellbeing of children under 5. Plunket works together with families and communities, to ensure the best start for every child. Whānau āwhina - caring for families.
My church, Mt Albert Baptist Church had been hosting Christmas at Rocket park. Plunket was our beneficiary. Today, they came to thank us.
This week, it was Plunket collection day. I took their photo and told them I was once a plunket mum.
30 years ago, I was a young mother with no immediate family in New Zealand. I was a beneficiary of Plunket.
25 years ago, when I was expecting Andrew, and after he died, Plunket was there to help me a lot.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

a beautiful place to reflect

At Western Springs yesterday, I saw many shags. Deb was 4 and half when Andrew was born and died. I used to go to the lakes and cry. Andrew could never see such a beautiful place. Did u have a special place to go to grieve?


Photo: At Western Springs yesterday, I saw many shags. Deb was 4 and half when Andrew was born and died. I used to go to the lakes and cry. Andrew could never see such a beautiful place. Did u have a special place to go to grieve?